MAY I ENCOUNTER THE PERFECT OBSTACLES IN MY PATH – TIBETAN PRAYER
I’ll end this series with that most perfect quote. It’s the cornerstone of the Get To Principle. Life is unfolding in front of us, right now. Life is what it is, right now. But we spend a lot of time arguing with what is, resisting, resenting, trying to squirm away from what is happening in any given moment. However, when you say “I Get To” the squirming stops. The resisting stops. The resenting stops. You become present. And in that quiet space, when you smile, you feel joy.
At that point, in that space of mind, when you do what you were going to do, you understand that what unfolds is exactly what you need to encounter. And you can then make decisions and take actions that are based on currently reality, not from some resistance to it. It’s a very liberating feeling.
Creating this feeling in yourself leads to something powerful: the choice to be happy. Choosing to be happy in any given moment is one of the most important decisions you can make in life. Yes, there is suffering and pain for all of us, and there is injustice and cruelty in the world. And we’re going to die. So it’s not easy to choose happiness. For example, the weeks and months after my daughter died at birth, choosing to be happy was a challenge. But I worked at it, when I could. When I said, in my own way then, I Get To experience her dying, I shifted from the victim feeling of having to experience that, to the feeling of gratitude for having had even just nine months with that soul. I came to honor her path in life. I came to understand the situation as a perfect obstacle in my path of life. No, it’s not always easy, but striving for happiness is a worthy goal in life.
It doesn’t have to be a major event that challenges your happiness quest. The other day, on the freeway here in LA, someone cut me off. I could feel myself start to get angry but remembered the mantra: Get To – Smile – Get cut off. Saying Get To, I realized I had no idea about that guy. Hell, his wife could be laying in the backseat in labor and he was racing to the hospital. Or maybe he’s in the middle of a divorce and he’s racing to court or he’ll lose a custody battle for his kids that he loves dearly. Regardless, I got to have compassion for him. I was also grateful for what I did have. I was not in a hurry. I was listening to a great book on audio, (Elon Musk: Tesla, SpaceX and the Quest for a Fantastic Future), and I was warm and safe. In that moment I smiled and felt joy. And then I kept driving. Nope, I wasn’t going to let someone cutting me off in traffic bring me out of my happiness.